Sobriety for the Codependent?

Often codependents express envy that the alcoholic clearly knows what sobriety is: abstinence from alcohol. But what, they ask, is sobriety for the codependent?

Codependency in its simplest terms is a "lack of Self," which often leads to an obsessive focus on the lives of others. Recovery for the codependent involves removing the focus from others and placing it squarely on the Self. When we find it difficult to keep the focus on ourselves, it is usually because we are uncomfortable living with our unloving, unforgiving Selves. The Twelve Steps, meetings and other tools move us through a process by which we can let go of old patterns and develop self-compassion, self-love and self-forgiveness.

So one answer to the above question might be:

Keeping the focus on Self is sobriety for the codependent. Relapse is focusing on others.