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I begin by
accepting who I am and where I'm at.
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It's okay to
take care of myself.
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Today isn't
yesterday. Things change. Just because it
hasn't happened yet, doesn't mean it'll
never happen.
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It's okay to
laugh at myself, but not when I need to cry.
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If I want to
change what happens, I need to change what I
believe and expect.
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The problem
isn't what other people have been doing to
me. It's what I've been doing to myself.
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It's okay to
be in a special love relationship. It's okay
to not be in a relationship. It's okay to be
looking for one.
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I can learn
to depend on myself. Maybe other people
haven't been there for me, but I can start
being there for me.
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There's no
such thing as a perfect person. There's no
such thing as a perfect relationship.
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Control is an
illusion. It doesn't work. I can't change
other people.
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Conflicts
don't have to end relationships.
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I have the
right to change my own rules, the powerful
messages from the past that control what I
do today.
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If I'm
willing to get honest, be open, and try
things differently, I'll change.
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My past has
prepared me for this moment. Today prepares
me for tomorrow. Nothing is wasted.
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I won't let
people stomp on my rights. I can say "no"
and set limits.
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Giving to
people is an important part of living, but
there's a big difference between giving and
being robbed.
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I have a
right to be, to be here, and to be who I am.
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Sometimes I
need to work hard on a relationship.
Sometimes I need to back off and work on
myself.
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I need to
combine hard work with a lot of acceptance
and letting go.
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I'm a
spiritual being. My spiritual self is as
much "me" as my body, mind, and emotions.
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I deserve the
best love has to offer. But the process of
getting the best from love begins with me.
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What I
believe I deserve will be about what I get.
I can choose to change what I believe.
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Feeling sad
and angry is sometimes as important as
feeling happy and peaceful.
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I don't need
to take care of myself in self-defeating
ways. I can take care of myself in positive
ways.
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When I feel
ashamed, I tell myself it's okay to be who I
am.
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Today I'll
give myself a big mental and emotional hug.
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I don't have
to give up everything else for love.
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If I don't
take care of myself, I won't be able to do
much to help the people I love.
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I can develop
boundaries, limits that say, "This is as far
as I'll go," and "This is what I won't
tolerate."
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Anything can
happen, and "anything" doesn't necessarily
mean something bad.
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A
relationship doesn't begin my life. A
relationship doesn't become my life. A
relationship is a continuation of my life.
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It's okay to
tend to my own physical, emotional, and
spiritual needs.
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I don't have
to be perfect. I don't even have to be
nearly perfect.
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I can learn
to accept the darker side of myself. I can
learn to accept the darker side of other
people, too.
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I need to be
gentle and compassionate with myself.
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Sharing who I
am and how I feel helps me get close to
people.
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My source of
happiness isn't inside other people. It's
inside me.
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I can't
change things I can't change, and trying to
do that will make me crazy.
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Peace can
become more comfortable than chaos.
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When I've
done all I can do, it's time to let go.
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I can take
responsibility for myself. I don't have to
take responsibility for other people.
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I can trust
my mind and my ability to think. I can take
my brains with me wherever I go.
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Feelings
aren't good or bad; they're just feelings.
It's okay for me to have my feelings, all of
them.
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How I feel
about myself makes a difference. What I tell
myself makes a difference.
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No matter
what my age or history, I can find love if
that's what I want.
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It's okay to
give to others, and it's okay to keep some
for myself, too.
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Intimacy and
closeness require self-acceptance. I need to
be intimate with myself before I can be
intimate with anyone else.
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I'm who I'm
meant to be, I'm not a mistake.
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I have the
right to become as healthy and successful as
I can.
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I don't have
to give up my power to think, feel, and make
good decisions to anyone or anything.
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I can take
all the time I need to collect my thoughts,
resolve my feelings, and figure out
solutions.
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Affirmations,
positive messages I choose to give myself,
help create reality. Affirmations create
space where reality can happen.
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I don't have
to be afraid of people. They're people, just
like me.
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I can learn
to be comfortable with myself and my life.
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I don't have
to be perfect, and neither does anybody
else.
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My first
responsibility is to myself.
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I have a
right to discover who I am and what I want.
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The only
person I can change is myself. But, by
changing myself, I may change more than I
can imagine.
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If I listen
to myself, I'll probably hear myself say
what the problem is. The next step is
acceptance.
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If it feels
crazy, it probably is.
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I can make
myself comfortable. I can restore my peace.
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It's okay to
need people. It's okay to love people. But I
don't have to obsess about them.
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I need to
listen closely to myself to hear what I'm
saying and thinking.
